Last modified November 17, 2008
It is traditional to have a grave marker or headstone placed at the site where the deceased is laid to rest. Depending on the site, a monument, gravemarker, traditional headstone or plaque may be used to leave a lasting message in the place where a loved one resides for eternity.
Choosing a GraveSite Marker
Choosing a gravemarker can be difficult - do not rush into a decision if you do not have to. Some families will wait for several weeks or months after the funeral to decide on a grave marker so that they can make the decision at a calmer, less stressful time. The best way to decide on a marker for a love done is to discuss the wishes of the loved one during funeral pre-planning, if possible. This lets the loved one have input into how they would like to be remembered.
The choice in gravemarker or headstone in part must be decided based on logistical guidelines. Most cemeteries and mausoleums have restrictions on the type, size and placement of a monument. This too should be discussed during the funeral pre-planning session with a funeral directory or cemetery representative.
Online Memorial Markers
Many families are creating online memorial tributes as virtual, everlasting markers honoring a lost loved one forever. Like a granite stone or bronze plaque at the site, these online memorials provide a place for loved ones all over to pay tribute and honor a loved one at any time. They also provide a place to leave the memories and epitaphs left on gravemarkers.